I took myself to Cape May in sub-zero temperatures and blustery winds in the dead of December, loading my Toyota Corolla with heavy sweaters, a down coat, gloves, a hat, boots and tennis shoes.ย I brought a desire to be alone and at peace, to escape from our son’s endless stream of challenges, and to simply wander haphazardly, pay attention and take photos.
Heading north on I-95, I played my Spotify playlist, On the Way to Cape May, putting me in a Jersey state of mind.ย I chuckled as the John Pizzarelli Trio serenaded me with a mishmash of how different singers would sing about New Jersey.ย ๐ถ “Travelin’ down the turnpike, headin’ for the shore… Forty-seven shoe stores line route 22.” ๐ถ
In his Paul Simon version: ๐ต “gas stations we have scores… Some states have their rock stars, oh but Springsteen beats them all… Lots of dineries, oil refineries, our highways make you cough… The drinking spots and used car lots make the place just grand.” ๐ต
๐ผ “It’s another New Jersey sunrise,” Pizzarelli sang in a Beach Boys version of “Tequila Sunrise.” “Philly dogs like chili dogs they eat in Cherry Hill, woo-ee-ooo… There are no Jersey strangers, just friends we haven’t met.” {Instrumental} “Hey, let’s go to Jersey now, everybody’s learning how. Come on out to Jersey with me.” ๐ผ
He added the Lou Reed version to the tune of “Walk on the Wild Side:” ๐ถ “Our famous parkway, it’s the dark way… you’d think for all those quarters, they’d turn the road lights on… And have no pity, Jersey City, once again we’ll shine…” ๐ถ
People certainly have a sense of humor about the Garden State! ๐
Crossing over the towering verdigris-colored Delaware Memorial Bridge, I paid homage to veterans from both New Jersey and Delaware who died in the Korean War, the Vietnam War and the Persian Gulf War, to whom theย twin suspension bridge is dedicated.
After crossing the Delaware River, I exited onto Route 40, where I stopped at a gas station and struggled to get my credit card to work in the gas pump. A lady in a monstrous SUV pulled up and rolled down her window.ย “You’re not allowed to pump your own gas in New Jersey.ย It’s great!ย We never have to get out of our car.ย I saw your Virginia plate and could see you were confused.” I was glad she informed me of this; I had no idea!
A white-bearded attendant lollygagged over to pump my gas.ย I asked him if they had a bathroom inside and he dismissively shook his head.ย I said aloud to myself, with the window open, “What? Crap! Why did I stop here?”
A burly African-American man poked his head out from the other side of the pump, where he was wiping the windshield of his huge burgundy pickup.ย “Mam, there’s a sign over there that says there’s a restroom around the corner, outside.”ย I frowned as I saw a porta-potty beside the building; I had no choice but to use it. A half mile further, a Wawa and a McDonald’s turned up, offering clean indoor facilities — too late for my needs.
Along Route 40, I passed a long lanky cowboy at Cowtown Rodeo.ย Mike told me later he remembered seeing that cowboy on a high school road trip in 1972.

Cowboy at Cowtown Rodeo
Across the street, John Wayne sat astride a horse in front of Cowtown Cowboy Outfitters, selling “the very best in Western wear since 1958.” Saddles, Western boots and hats, were flung over fence posts outdoors, enticing wanna-be cowboys to drop in.

Cowtown Rodeo
I passed barns, silos, flat farmland, a big truck shop with the truck cabs tilted forward as if yawning. A John Deere tractor shop gleamed with green and yellow tractors and farm equipment.ย RVs squatted for sale in a big lot.
I drove past the Boro of Elmer,ย brown derelict corn stalk stubs, Malaga, Porchtown, South Jersey Classic Cars, signs for Atlantic City, apple orchards and Bishop’s Produce Stand. Kountry Kitchen offered “Good Vittles,” but I had my heart set on lunch in Cape May.ย I whizzed past Pinelands Nature Reserve and a “SHEEP FARM” sign, and around a traffic circle in the township of Dennis, where, whirling like a dervish, I sang along with Desert Sessions, “I Wanna Make It Wit Chu,” and later, “Livin’ on a Prayer” with Bon Jovi.
๐ถย Woah, we’re half way there
Woah, livin’ on a prayer
Take my hand, we’ll make it I swear
Woah, livin’ on a prayerย ๐ถ
โON JOURNEYโ INVITATION: I invite you to write a 750-1,000 word (or less) post on your own blog about the journey itself for a recently visited specific destination. If you donโt have a blog, I invite you to write in the comments. Include the link in the comments below by Tuesday, April 10 at 1:00 p.m. EST.ย When I write my post in response to this challenge on Wednesday, April 11, Iโll include your links in that post. My next post will be about my road trip to Nashville, Tennessee.ย If you’d like to see the original post about this invitation, check out: on the journey: taking ourselves from here to there.
This will be an ongoing invitation, once weekly through April, and monthly after that. Feel free to jump in at any time. ๐
I hope youโll join in our community. I look forward to reading your posts!
the ~ wander.essence ~ community
I invite you all to settle in and read a few posts from our wandering community.ย I promise, youโll be inspired!
- Robin, of Breezes at Dawn, wrote about her recent road trip from her Eastern Shore home to visit family in Ohio.ย They make a sad stop along the way, cross a Scary Bridge, and pass some quirky sights.ย She even manages to include great pictures from the car window.
- Robin also wrote another post about taking herself along, another question I posed in the original post about Journey.ย I like how she talks about taking along her fears but, more importantly, her sense of wonder.
- Carol, of The Eternal Traveler, wrote about the reasons for and the beginning of her three week road trip from Toowoomba, Queensland to Bairnsdale, Victoria: the lifelong friendship between her husband Glen and Kevin, the beer-themed birthday party at the destination, and the craft breweries and craft shops along the way.
- Meg, of snippetsandsnaps, wrote about a road trip from her daughter’s home to her home in New South Wales, Australia, where she encounters “macropods courting death,” skyscapes with the clouds bowling above her, and some local characters, including a solitary man on a mission to prevent youth suicide.ย She includes haiku and wonderful photos as well.
Many thanks to all of you who wrote posts about the journey. I’m inspired by all of you! ๐
The country music sure get those feet a tapping ๐ Fun post!
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Thanks, Suzanne. It’s so much fun to listen to music on a road trip! ๐
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I’ve had a couple of hours of fun around here, Cathy. ๐ ๐ Funny how some days/times your path collides with people on the blogs. And sometimes you need an uplift. ๐ So, I’m culminating here with a darn good sing-along. I can’t say you’ve sold me on New Jersey but I did enjoy the trip. (aside from the loo stop ๐
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I don’t know if you have Spotify, Jo, or if you’re able to access my playlist and hear the songs. I know I can access it because I have Spotify, but I don’t know if others can. It is so much fun to sing along on a road trip. It’s too bad I can’t sing worth a darn, because I sure love doing it. As for the loo stops, I must confess, I don’t admit to how many stops I actually have to make! That one was funny because I felt like such an idiot trying to pump my own gas and I hate using porta-potties!
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I don’t have it, Cathy, and unless there’s a link in the post I don’t know how to access it either. Believe me, I’d be hollering away too ๐ ๐
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The link is in the second paragraph, Jo. This theme doesn’t show off the links very well. It’s On the Way to Cape May.
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Okey doke. Cover your ears! ๐ ๐
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Teehee, I can’t sing, but I still holler!
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Me too, Sue! ๐
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I’m hollering too, Jo!
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This is interesting for me as my brother lives in Somerset and I know nothing about New Jersey. It’ll be a while before I have a journey to write about I’m afraid.
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He lives in Somerset, New Jersey? That’s quite a bit north from where I was driving. I was at the southern tip of New Jersey. Have you never been to visit him, Gilly? I don’t know that New Jersey is a destination in and of itself, but it’s not that far from New York. ๐
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Not yet, I hope to get there one day – only in summer though way too cold for me otherwise ๐
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I hope so! When you ever come this way, you should definitely stop in and visit and even stay here as my guest in northern Virginia, Gilly.
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Ahh, you’re very sweet Cathy ๐
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You brought back memories for me, that’s for sure. I grew up in southern NJ, and every summer my family and I took that trip over to Ocean City. As I got older, I drove down further south on my own – to Cape May. I didn’t enjoy NJ, growing up. Not even the songs. :–) But the NJ shore – now that’s worth singing about.
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I can’t imagine being in love with New Jersey, but I agree, the shore is fabulous. I really love Cape May. However, to be honest, I’ve never really spent much time in New Jersey except to drive through; I should give it a fair chance. There must be other good things about it, right? I’ll write more about my time there tomorrow and Tuesday. ๐ Thanks for dropping by!
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When I grew up in southern NJ, there was a lot of small farms and small towns, which now as an adult I’d admire (I didn’t as a kid). But most of those farms have been sold off to housing developments. Sad. I lived in northern NJ for two years when I went to graduate school. Some of the towns are pretty and quaint, but they’re expensive and the roads are congested because they’re close to NYC.
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Pam, I can imagine it is very expensive to live in New Jersey with its proximity to NYC. You’ve obviously had much more experience in the state as I have! My two visits were short lived, but I’m sure there is more I could explore. ๐
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It’s much easier to travel in summer than winter. All those warm clothes and accessories take up so much room! Lucky you had a car to fit them all in. I love how you started the trip with the appropriate musical accompaniments.
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Thanks, Carol. Yes, you need so many clothes in winter, so it was lucky we had the car. We can throw in whatever we need when we have our own transportation. It’s so much fun to create a playlist for a road trip. It adds another dimension to the journey. ๐
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It’s like that with the caravan too. I take a lot more on a caravan trip than I do when we travel overseas.
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Yes, I can imagine you do that. Anytime we have our own transportation, it’s a lot easier to carry more than we need. When I walk the Camino, I’m going to have to take the smallest amount possible. This will be quite a challenge for me!
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I have a basic formula for when we travel overseas. I like to start with no more than 12 kg. The things to remember are: 1. You’re not likely to meet anyone you know, so you don’t have to look glamorous. 2. Take mix and match so you can vary tops and pants. That way you have a bigger wardrobe. You don’t need heaps of jumpers and coats. 3. You don’t need lots of underwear – one on, one drying and one spare is all I take. 4. You only need basic toiletries. Don’t take all the beauty products. You need one really good quality moisturiser.
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It sounds like a good formula for packing, Carol. I don’t use many beauty products anyway, so that’s easy. But I do like to take along some cute outfits, mostly cute tops and jeans. Shoes seem the most important because you want comfortable walking shoes that don’t look too horrific. At least for me! Have a great weekend!
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I only take one dressy top to go with jeans and I have a nice pair of black leather walking shoes as well as my hiking boots. You have a nice weekend too.
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Thanks, Carol!
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Oh, and layers are essential. And I always take a set of thermals. They’re light, hardly take up any room and can be a lifesaver on a cold, windy day.
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For sure! Those are always a good idea.
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It’s too bad you didn’t ask me about New Jersey before you went. (I’m originally from the Garden State.) Jersey girls, as you now know, never ever pump their own gas. Neither do Jersey boys but no one has written a song about them. lol! Your playlist sounds like a lot of fun. If you ever want to see some serious NJ kitsch, Route 206 to Route 30 to Atlantic City is a great place to start. Giant gorillas and all sorts of other fun stuff.
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Oh my gosh, I wish I had asked you, Robin. Haha, that was so funny about the gas pumping. I called Mike to tell him the story and he was shocked, “Don’t you know, you can’t pump your own gas in Jersey!” You should have seen me bumbling about and getting frustrated. Ok, now you’ve got me curious. It looks like a road trip Route 206 to Route 30 to Atlantic City is called for. I’ve never been to Atlantic City! Yay! I love that NJ kitsch. ๐
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Great, now I’m singing “Whoooaaaaaaa livin’ on a prayeeeeeeerr!” ๐ถ ๐
And fantastic photos as usual ๐
I’d have a slightly over 1000 words post for your “Journey” Invitation: This one about our long trip to Denmark.
https://shiarrael.wordpress.com/2018/01/14/north-to-denmark-we-go-north-the-rush-is-on/
Might be a tiny bit of Bon Jovi in there, too…
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I’m glad I got you singing along with Bon Jovi, Shia. And thanks so much for your kind words about the photos. I love your tale of your trip to Denmark with your friends, the encounters and sights along the way. It’s such fun to go along on your journey with the three graces. Thanks so much for sharing. I’ll be posting your link in my post on Wednesday morning. Bon Jovi, yes!! ๐
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Here’s my (current) thoughts on ‘the journey’, Cathy: https://suejudd.com/2018/04/10/on-the-journey-taking-ourselves-from-here-to-there/
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Just tried to post my link,not showing: https://suejudd.com/2018/04/10/on-the-journey-taking-ourselves-from-here-to-there/
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